What Causes Stress of Wedding Planning and How to Manage It?

Shadiyana is here once again, to guide you through the stress of wedding planning. Keep reading!

Congratulations on finding someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. It’s the most beautiful time of your life. Technically you should be living on cloud nine till the wedding actually happens. With your friends and family by your side, it is the time you will want to cherish forever.  You get to be the princess you’ve always wanted to be. Everyone’s trying to make sure that you are doing well. Your friends, family, siblings, everyone is ready to help.

Planning Your Wedding is Exciting, Right? WRONG!

Although, conventionally or as people would think, planning your wedding is the most exciting and fun part of your life. So planning your wedding is exciting, right? WRONG!

A lot of couples find it extremely difficult to plan a wedding. From planning to execution, everything can get so tiresome that whole excitement takes a back seat. 

Reasons that Cause Stress of Wedding Planning

While there could be a number of reasons for causing stress during a wedding including personal, familial, etc. But some of these reasons seem to prevail generally in almost all situations. 


One of the most stressful things is budgeting. Weddings are not just the main event of getting married. There is a lot that goes before and even after the main event. And ofcourse, all of these arrangements require money and finances. So first of all, coming up with a budget that does not have a potential to bring you on roads. But also making sure that you can plan the things as per your preference. It can get a lot for the bride and groom.


Since weddings are a way for families to reconnect and come together. It can also be a potential risk for a lot of family drama. The familial ties can be exhausting to maintain. It’s the perfect time for that divorced couple to come in front of each other and recall all the drama. Likewise, that aunty who isn’t on talking terms with her brother, yes she can be a threat too.

Bringing Everyone on the Same Page

Wedding planning involves a lot of decision making. From the caterers to the decor vendors, it is a tiring process. And what’s even more tiresome is to convince everyone to agree on that choice. Usually parents have different preferences than the couple. And sometimes the in-laws have different ideologies than you and your family. So making everyone happy (or maybe just not angry) can be a lot of work to do. 

Indications You Are in Stress

Although the best way to avoid the stress would be to elope but we do not recommend it! We have some other ways that can prevent stress. 

  • Stick to a budget, no matter what
  • Maintain communication with your partner
  • Do market research 
  • Take time while making decisions and then trust them
  • Talk to the Newly Wed couples around you (for advice and support)

So how do you tell that you’re feeling stressed? While planning any event could cause stress but it shouldn’t surpass a certain level. Because then it becomes a threat to your well-being. Let’s have a look at some symptoms that show you are under stress:

  • Feelings of overwhelm
  • Inability to Focus
  • Indecisiveness
  • Constant Worry
  • Irritability
  • Dysregulated Sleep Pattern and Appetite
  • Digestive Issues
  • Exhaustion
  • High BP or Heart Beat
  • Panic or Anxiety Attacks (in Extreme Situations)

Let’s Talk About Some Tips to the Stress

Avoiding stress while planning a wedding is almost impossible. But there are a few things that can help diminish stress in such circumstances. 

  1. Anticipate the Stressors

It is important to plan ahead before time so you can effectively anticipate the stressors. For instance if you know choosing food items that are according to your guests’ preferences would be hard, then be prepared for it. Have some pointers with you that will help you during the booking. Likewise, arranging for the accommodation of your guests can also be pretty stressful. Making sure everyone has what they need or might need, is a task. So plan ahead, the rooms, the space, arrange toiletries and adequate food for them. 

  1. Share Responsibilities Even if You Don’t Want to

We understand that it is your day. And you want everything about it to be perfect. But it is humanly impossible for one person to manage all things single handedly. So, take help from the people you trust. See who is best at what job and delegate those to them. That one cousin who has a lot of connections, ask him to manage vendor booking and discounts. That one aunty who is good with managing food and menu, ask her to oversee the kitchen work and food at home. And likewise take your friend to bridal shopping who has the best dressing sense. 

  1. Understand Spoon Theory 

Spoon Theory basically says that every person has a limited amount of energy everyday. It can range from 12-15 spoons per day. So what does it mean? It implies that you have to spend that limited amount of energy wisely. Every time you spend extra energy in one day, you’re actually borrowing some energy from the days ahead. 

And when you do that, you have to regain that energy by refueling yourself. This causes an imbalance in you. Thus leading to mental and chronic issues.

Here’s a graphical representation for a useful utilization of your energy.

Most Important Thing is to Have Fun!

One of the most important things to remember is to let go and enjoy yourself. Not everything may go exactly as planned, but instead of getting upset about it. You can choose to let it go and focus on the bigger picture. After all, the wedding is ultimately about you and your partner getting married and embarking on a lifelong journey together.

For any assistance while planning your dream wedding, feel free to get in touch with Shadiyana’s skilled team to help you!

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