Ultimate Guide for Tradition and Modernity in Pakistani Weddings

If you’re a bride or groom to be, then the dilemma of traditional and modern wedding will be surrounding you right now. Neither of them is a good or bad option. It’s all about personal preference of the bride and groom alongwith their families. Moreover, it’s not like the two are entirely different from each other. There are tidbits like various rasmain, choice of outfits, etc. that vary. 

Colors, Traditions, and Everything Fun

Pakistani weddings are all about colors, traditions, extravaganza, family, joy, and all things positive. While in most parts of the world, weddings only last a day or two. Pakistan is a place where weddings are a celebration that goes on for as long as a month, in some cases. Friends and family come together to celebrate the union. Irrespective of the relationship with the bride and groom, everyone is as excited as they can be. People come over and stay for weeks. Thus, not only helping the family with the wedding arrangements but also lighting up the house with chatters and laughter.

Even though a lot of things have changed over the years, the excitement for weddings remains the same. Right after the date fixing ceremony which usually includes close family and friends, the guests start preparing for the wedding events. 

Back in the days, friends and families used to gather around from all over Pakistan. However, that has now expanded to people joining for the wedding from all across the world. Because a lot of people have been seen shifting abroad. Some of them manage to make it to the weddings. While some cannot. 

History of Wedding Traditions

Pakistan is an Islamic State and hence a lot of traditions come from that background. However, since it has been a part of the sub-continent for a long period of time as well. Therefore, there are a few wedding traditions that were transferred from there as well. Whether someone is opting for traditional or modern weddings, there is bound to be some similarity with these two aspects. Let’s have an in depth look at all these traditional and modern weddings and their traditions.

Pre-Wedding Traditions

There was this wedding tradition widely known as “Mayun Bithana.” It is basically a traditional rasam. And most of the people do not follow it anymore. Back in the days, when there were only a few days left for the main wedding event, the brides were asked to restrict going out of the house. Which would be called as “Dulhan Mayun beth gayi hai.” They were not allowed to do any house chores or even shopping after that. It was a time given to the bride for resting and relaxing before the wedding chaos would hit. In some places, they were also advised not to take showers for seven days. This was believed to bring “roop” on the bride. Relatives would come and put ubtan on her. So she can glow on her wedding day.

However, this has become a long forgotten tradition now. Brides prefer working and shopping even till the main event day. Traditionally, people would live in joint family systems. So, there would always be someone to take care of the chores. However, nowadays the bride and groom are the ones handling everything on their own. From arrangements to payments, everything is under the supervision of them. So, practically also, it has become less likely to give up everything for a whole week. 

Besides, there was a tradition of inviting relatives with proper visit and meeting etc. The family of the bride and groom would visit all the relatives personally before a specific period of time. And invite everyone by taking a few boxes of sweets and fruits with them. However, those personal invitations have also been shifted towards digital invites that typically use WhatsApp etc. 

Traditional and Modern Wedding Outfits

Traditionally, not just the brides but even the guests would choose bright color outfits with heavy embroidery. These dresses would be kept in storage safely. Then years later they would wear them again on some other occasion. Brides loved red or maroon on their baraat. Choosing a color for this day was not a thing. It was like an understood thing that the color is going to be either red or maroon. But they could go for different embroidery, outfit style, etc. or choose something in contrast with them. A few decades back, royal blue or bottle green were quite popular for making a contrast. 

This has changed completely over time. Brides nowadays go for soft and pastel shades not just on reception but also on baraat. Additionally, no one would have thought of wearing a black outfit at their wedding. But these days, brides love experimenting with colors. From dark and bold shades of Pink and Orange, to Black and Whites. They are not scared of being called different. They like choosing their style over what others think they should choose.

Traditional and Modern Nikah Traditions

Nikah is unarguably the most important part of the wedding ceremonies. Both bride and groom say “Qubool Hai” and sign the marriage certificate. However, the commencement of this day has changed as well. A more traditional way is that the “wali” of the bride go to her and ask her if she takes the groom as her husband. Likewise, the groom’s father, brother, and cousins ask him the same. Then after the approval from both of them, the couple would be allowed to sit together on stage. That is how the ritual of getting nikah used to happen. 

But things have changed now. People have pre-wedding photoshoots, bridal showers and what not. The couples have their pre-wedding events like mayun, mehndi, etc. in a combined ceremony. Another thing is that people used to have their nikahs done just before the rukhsati. Unless there is a reason for having it earlier like immigration documents or so. But today’s trend hints at getting the nikah done long before the rukhsati. For nor particular reason.

Traditional and Modern Wedding Events

Another noticeable difference between the traditional and modern weddings is the events. Previously, people used to have 2 main events i.e. baraat or nikah and the walima or reception. And then there were other small events including mehndi, mayun, dholki, and so on. People of the family would gather and decide how many pre-wedding events they would like to have, other than the two main events.

However, nowadays people combine two day events into one. It is called Shehndi, which is an amalgamation of Mehndi plus Shadi. Likewise, another good example of this is Shalima. It is a combination of Shadi and Walima. So, the trends have changed even in this aspect. 

Choose Shadiyana for Traditional and Modern Weddings

No matter which type of wedding you are planning to have. Shadiyana is here to help you plan your wedding in 3 minutes. Our wedding vendors are exceptional when it comes to serving the best possible product. Their experience makes it an everyday thing to deliver either kind of work. They know their craft and are quite skilled in their work as well. So feel free to ring us up on Shadiyana and get the best possible services for your wedding. 


Why do brides wear red on their wedding?

Traditionally, brides used to wear red because it was considered a love of happiness. However nowadays, they choose a lot of other colors as well. 

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